Most groups measure success by counting things like how many people came to events. But Fathers and Families of San Joaquin in California created a different way to measure what really matters: love. Their 'Measuring Love' tool has four parts that work together. First is Nurturing - helping people grow and meeting them where they are without judgment. Second is Compassion - truly feeling someone's pain and standing with them, not just feeling sorry from far away. Third is Justice - working to change unfair systems because love takes action against harm. Fourth is Righteous Anger - using anger as fuel for positive change when things are wrong. This group helps families hurt by prison and violence. Many staff members have their own experiences with the justice system, so they understand what families need. Instead of just counting numbers, they collect stories and ask questions like 'When did we help someone grow this week?' and 'What wrong thing are we refusing to accept?' The tool helps groups see if people feel respected, if healing happens, and if love shows up in their work. Groups can start small by adding story questions to their evaluation process.

Most groups measure success by counting things like how many people came to events. But Fathers and Families of San Joaquin in California created a different way to measure what really matters: love. Their 'Measuring Love' tool has four parts that work together. First is Nurturing - helping people grow and meeting them where they are without judgment. Second is Compassion - truly feeling someone's pain and standing with them, not just feeling sorry from far away. Third is Justice - working to change unfair systems because love takes action against harm. Fourth is Righteous Anger - using anger as fuel for positive change when things are wrong. This group helps families hurt by prison and violence. Many staff members have their own experiences with the justice system, so they understand what families need. Instead of just counting numbers, they collect stories and ask questions like 'When did we help someone grow this week?' and 'What wrong thing are we refusing to accept?' The tool helps groups see if people feel respected, if healing happens, and if love shows up in their work. Groups can start small by adding story questions to their evaluation process.
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